Good day and welcome to overcoming temptations. I wish you God’s grace and wisdom in Jesus name. Today our topic is titled “What to do if you are unhappy in marriage”
For several reasons people can be unhappy in marriage or they feel that they made a mistake in marriage. For instance. 1. Some people were forced or persuaded by their parents or guardians to get married. 2. Some people married as children or at young age when they did not understand what it means to be married. 3. Others married out of desperation, they felt they were growing old and just needed to hook up with someone. 4. Some married out of carelessness, they saw that the person had weaknesses that they could not tolerate, yet they went ahead and still got married hoping that the person would change in future. 5. Some others found out that their partner is consistently cheating on them and this has made the marriage unbearable, 6. Some got pregnant and just decided to marry because of the pregnancy not considering if this was the right choice. 7. Others feel that they are in a financial burden because their husband is not rich. 8. Others are trusting God for the fruit of the womb and there seems to be a delay. 9. There seems to be no love or companionship or affection in the marriage. 10. Some others feel that their spouses are inadequate in terms of knowledge, education, social status, appearance and so on 11. Some people can’t even identify the reason but they know they are not just happy or joyful in their marriage. We can actually go on and on, the reasons are endless that could lead to unhappiness, but the solution are few. Let me share some of them with you. By the way divorce is not of the recommended solutions because Jesus said in Mathew 5:31-32- “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. So as a Christian divorce is not allowed except for adultery and even at that there is room for forgiveness.
So let me share three solutions I discovered, as usual this is not exhaustive.
1.Be contented – 1 Tim 6:6 says But godliness with contentment is great gain. Be happy with your spouse, don’t compare, cover the faults of each other. Human desire is unquenchable, so make up your mind to be happy and joyful with your own. No matter how much you have in life, if you are not contented, you can never be happy. Being contented does not mean that things are perfect or that you should not be ambitious. It means that you should be grateful and happy with what you have today, try and look at the positive side of every situation. Half full and half empty are the same thing, depending on how you see it.
- Be Wise- In Samuel 25:3 we read – now the man’s name was Nabal, and his wife’s name was Abigail. And the woman was intelligent and beautiful in appearance, but the man was harsh and evil in his dealings. So the bible says that Abigail was wise and beautiful but unfortunately her husband was foolish and evil. We may not know how Abigail ended up marrying this kind of evil man, but because she was wise and kept marriage, it took God to take her husband’s life then she was free to remarry David, who became King. This means no matter how difficult a marriage is you can overcome if you allow God fight your battles and depend on him. Wisdom is the fear of God, so be wise.
- Be Prayerful- James 5:16 says- The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. Meaning that if you are righteous, God will answer your prayer. There is no problem too big for God to solve, His solution may not be in the way we expect it, but He will surely answer those who call upon Him in prayers.
So the solutions are contentment, wisdom and prayers. Wish you a blessed day and let the joy of the Lord be your strength.
