Hello Dear Listeners, welcome to overcoming temptations. My name is Oyisi Okatahi. Today our topic is titled: The 6 needs in Marriage for women. My reference bible.org
Proverbs 24:3 says By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established. The first need Affection and love. To most women affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort, and approval. When a husband shows his wife affection, he sends the following messages like: (1) I’ll take care of you and protect you; (2) I’m concerned about the problems you face, and I am with you; (3) I think you’ve done a good job, and I’m so proud of you.
Men need to understand how strongly women need these affirmations. For the typical wife, there can hardly be enough of them. A hug can communicate all of the affirmations previously stated. But, affection can be shown in many ways such as: cards, flowers, dinners out, opening the car door, holding hands, walks after dinner, back rubs, phone calls–there are a thousand ways to say “I love you.” From a woman’s point of view, affection is the essential cement of her relationship with a man.
The second need is conversation. Wives need their husbands to talk to them and to listen to them; they need lots of two-way conversation. In their dating life prior to marriage, most couples spent time time showing each other affection and talking. This shouldn’t be dropped after the wedding. When two people get married, each partner has a right to expect the same loving care and attention that prevailed during courtship to continue after the wedding. The man who takes time to talk to a woman will have an inside track to her heart.
The third need is honesty, openness and fear of God. A wife needs to trust her husband totally. A sense of security is the common thread woven through all of a woman’s basic needs. If a husband does not keep up honest and open communication with his wife, he undermines her trust and eventually destroys her security. To feel secure, a wife must trust her husband to give her accurate information about his past, the present, and the future. If she can’t trust the signals he sends, she has no foundation on which to build a solid relationship. Instead of adjusting to him, she always feels off balance; instead of growing toward him, she grows away from him. A wife should also feel that her husbands love and trust and will make decision based on the fear of God.
Financial commitment is a fourth need a wife experiences. She needs enough money to live comfortably: she needs financial support. No matter how successful a career a woman might be, she usually wants her husband to earn enough money to allow her to feel supported and to feel cared for. Money is not everything but it is important.
The fifth need is family commitment. A wife needs her husband to be a good father and have a family commitment. The vast majority of women who get married have a powerful instinct to create a home and have children. Above all, wives want their husbands to take a leadership role in the family and to commit themselves to the moral and educational development of their children.
The sixth need is sexual fulfillment. Some men feel that only them need to be sexually fulfilled in marriage and don’t bother about the sexual fulfillment of their spouses. Although women appear to be sexually reserved, like men they also desire sexual fulfillment in marriage. This is something a husband should work on achieving.
