Hello Dear Listeners, welcome to overcoming temptations. My name is Oyisi Okatahi. Today our topic is titled: Parental Consent in Marriage. One of the 10 commandment by God in Exodus 20:12 says Honor your father and your mother: that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God gives you. So one thing that enables God bless us with long life is when we honor our parents. So when you are getting married parental consent and blessing is very important. So one will ask how about if my parents refuse me to marry someone for their own selfish reasons, should I still go ahead and listen to them. For instance some parents may refuse allowing their children marry due to financial and social status of the other family, or due to the tribal and religious difference, or the parent may just have someone else they prefer their children to marry. Whatever the reason may be for your parents refusal, if it is the will of God then God will make a way. The bible in Proverbs 21:1 A king’s heart is as water stream that the LORD controls; He directs it wherever He please. So God can turn the heart of even the most resistant parent to agree if the marriage pleases God. However it is not wise to disregard your parents and proceed into marriage. If there is any problem you will not have anyone to turn to. There is a spiritual blessing received when you receive parental blessings, even if your parents are not the best of parents.
There was this case where a man wanted to marry a lady and the lady’s Dad said that since they had different religious views that the marriage can only happen over his dead body. The couple did not force it but kept praying about it, and since the marriage pleased God, the lady’s father just passed on suddenly and the couple were free to get married because her mother and Uncle’s were in support and today they have been married for many years. So we are not praying that a parent should die because they refused to allow a child get married but the point is that God can solve the problem in mysterious ways without us disobeying our parents.
Also there are parents who say no just to test if you are really sure of what you are doing. If you remain consistent and resolute, they eventually give their blessings. And sometimes when parents say no it is for a good reason, and God is preventing you from future sorrow if you proceed.
But if you want God to intervene in your situation then you need to depend on him and not own your own wisdom. There are some couples who decide to get the lady pregnant to force the parent to agree to the wedding. This is not wise, as the parents may not still agree even with the pregnancy and even if they agree they will not give their blessings. If you are commit fornication and disobey God and your parents then God will allow you to continue your strategy. However when you want God to help you, you need to keep the relationship holy and free from fornication, then He will intervene in His own special way.
So trust God and He will make a way for you in Jesus name. Have blessed day.