Hello Dear Listeners, welcome to overcoming temptations. My name is Oyisi Okatahi. Today our topic is titled: Flirting.
Flirting can be defined behaving as though romantically attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions. So for instance if a man walks into a hotel and the receptionist says Hello Sweetheart, welcome to our hotel. If there is anything I can do to make you comfortable please let me know and when I say anything I mean anything. For the reception to say this it means she is suggesting something to the customer even though she may be joking. So Flirting is joking or playfully showing sexual interest. People flirt in many ways some by their dressing they make sure they expose sensitive areas of their body to the other person, others flirt by sending romantic text messages, people flirt by making eye contact suggesting they are interested, others by over complimenting with romantic words, Others by body contact, they could deliberately bump into you and say excuse me. So there are many ways people flirt but the purpose of this message is not to teach you how to flirt, rather to ask is flirting right or wrong as a believer. So the answer is to ask this question is it right or wrong to play with fire? The Bible in Proverbs 6:27 Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? So if you play with fire it will certainly burn you. As Christians we should be running away from temptation not going to look for it. When you flirt you are actually looking for temptation, that is an expensive joke that could lead you into trouble. You may be joking but the other person may be taking it very serious. So it is an inappropriate joke to play on someone.
Sometimes people flirt and later on say I did not ask the person out so why should the person think they are interested, well actions speak louder than words, you can ask someone out by your actions without saying a word so avoid flirting.
Sometimes you may flirt unconsciously not knowing the implications of your actions. There was a young attractive lady who likes to touch people when she speaks to them, she is very friendly and genuinely means no harm when she talks to you she could hold your hand or tap your body. The man on the other hand saw this as a sign of attraction and began to encourage a relationship based on lust and not love. So you need to ensure that you actions don’t give the other person a wrong impression.
Another likely place where people flirt is the office or work place. For people who work, you spend most of your time at the office. Some ladies spend so much time with married men, they go for lunch together, work on project together, chat during office hours, the lady dresses to suit the man. These actions no matter how innocent we claim they are could lead to something more and this could be dangerous. Now this is not to say that one cannot make friends in the office with the opposite sex, however you need to be cautious and be careful that you are not sending the wrong signals. So avoid flirting in any way. Have a blessed day.
