Welcome to overcoming temptation my name is Oyisi our topic today is fight for your marriage. I usually say that if marriage were a car then it is a manual car, you need to keep changing the gear, it is not an automatic car were you can just set the gear on drive and begin to cruise. It means that it takes effort to make your marriage work, a successful marriage is not automatic but hard work between both couples. According to a United Nations Statistics the divorce rate in most of Europe and America is over 50% meaning that half of people who get married end up divorced. In a country like Belgium divorce is 70% meaning 7 couples out of every 10 marriage end up in divorce. I am unable to state the divorce rate in Nigeria due to lack of statistics but it is clear that it is increasing every day. Now people divorce for many reasons such as incompatibility, unfaithfulness, unhappiness in marriage and so on. If you are divorced I pray that God will heal you and give you the fortitude to move on with a life that pleases Him, however if you are considering divorce I pray you should reconsider and fight for your marriage because it is worth fighting for. One response I sometimes get when I encourage couples to fight for their marriage is that I don’t understand what they are going through and if I were in their shoes I will also want a divorce. And my response is that God understands and there is nothing impossible with him, the bible says this in Mathew 19:26 Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.
The university of Chicago did a research on divorce and the findings where surprising. They found out that 80% of couples who initially wanted to divorce but fought for their marriage were happier 5 years later by not going for divorce. They also found out that most unhappy couples even after divorce were not still unhappy. This shows that even if you divorce or separate from your partner there is no guarantee you will be more happy by doing so.
It is common knowledge that when the family is broken, society is broken and satan is excited because evil increases in the society as a result of broken homes. Again research has shown that children from broken homes are more likely to have psychological problems than from those whose parents stayed together. And if you claimed to have loved someone to marry them, what then is the irreconcilable difference that you cannot forgive. Imagine if God the creator of the whole world did not keep forgiving us, who then can be saved? It is only by grace. Also many marriages are not broken because of big issues, just very little things and a little understanding and action can always save the marriage. When fighting for your marriage remember that two wrongs do not make a right. If your husband is cheating on you, don’t go and cheat on him to revenge, you are only complicating things. If your wife is disrespectful, do not stop taking care of her like withholding money to punish her. When there is a problem prayerfully fix it, do not worsen it by getting even with the other person. Prayer works like magic, ultimately everyone including your husband or wife is answerable to God, so allow God deal with the person not you. Ephesians 6:11-12 says 1 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. 12 For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. So the armour include prayers, bible study, faith, peace and so on. Remember it takes two to quarrel, ignore certain things that may lead to provocation or argument. Talk less and pray more. There is no perfect marriage, those who stayed married fought to keep their marriage so you need to fight for yours. The battle is not your it is the Lords’ so trust Him and he will not disappoint you, have a blessed day.